Mommy Guilt- feeling guilty when leaving your child to go get a workout in.
Let me touch on a few things here.
I feel NO Mommy Guilt.
Why is that?
Well, there are a few reasons.
Mainly because I know that what I'm doing at the gym makes me a better mom.
It makes me a better wife.
And it makes me more pleasant to be around.
Also? I'm setting a good example for my kids. I'm teaching them that taking charge of your health and making it a priority is a necessity.
I'm teaching them healthy habits.
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I remember after having Big T when I FIRST started to workout and tried to lose weight that I'd feel guilty about taking "me time".
So I improvised for a long time.
I'd work all day, pick up Big T from the sitter, go straight home and change into my workout gear.
Then I'd put him in his bouncy seat in front of my treadmill for 30 minutes while I ran all 200 lbs. of my ass doing the Couch to 5K.
And until he was mobile, that worked great.
Then I started putting him in his exersaucer and he could play while I ran. He was still right in front of me so I didn't feel like I was skipping out on time with him.
Then he grew some more (geez, slow down kid!) and I got a jogging stroller and started taking him with me on my runs as soon as I'd get off of work.
Keep in mind, I lost all my weight without a gym membership. So at this time I didn't have access to a gym or childcare, etc.
The Hubs often worked late and I knew I needed to get a workout in.
So with me Big T came.
He was my only child at that point, it was easy.
Then, I started to get serious about running and started upping my distances.
So I started leaving Big T at the sitter for 45 mins to an hour longer after I got off work so I could go run alone.
And while I felt guilty for the first few weeks, that faded.
Because what I got out of that 1 hour workout BY MYSELF was something I hadn't gotten in a long time... TIME TO MYSELF.
And it made me a better person. A better mom. A better wife.
I started to crave this "me time" and while, yes, I missed my baby, I was able to give him more attention and appreciate him more it seemed when I got in a good workout first.
I hope that makes sense.
For me, PERSONALLY, getting a good workout in, bettering myself and making ME a priority somehow makes me a better mom.
I don't know how. It just does.
The Mommy Guilt faded after a few weeks and running became my new release.
Every day after work my legs would bounce up and down in my car, anticipating my run I knew was only minutes away.
While I STILL have a love/hate relationship with running, it empowers me.
It makes me feel amazing. Capable. Like I can do anything.
And then I got pregnant again.
And I continued to run throughout my second pregnancy. The main reason I did it through pregnancy was because it helped me sleep better at night.
That and I had a crazy toddler that I needed to free my mind and soul for every day through running so I could deal with his shenannigans at night. ;)
When I had MJ I busted out the treadmill again.
I hate the treadmill.
I much prefer running outside, but while on maternity leave for 10 weeks, with no access to a gym or childcare, I did what I had to.
Again I'd put MJ in the bouncy seat while I ran on the treadmill.
The day came when I went back to work and I'd started craving my outdoor runs again.
And the first day I ran outside after going back to work I felt no guilt.
Because I'd been through it before. I KNEW the benefits I was gaining from bettering myself like I was doing.
And I had a half marathon to run, dammit.
So I trained during the week with shorter distances (nothing over 5 miles on a weekday) for 4 days a week with my long training run on Saturday morning. That I always had to schedule with The Hubs so he could watch the boys.
That Mommy Guilt I'd felt with Big T, I never felt with MJ.
Maybe it's second child syndrome (I'm a second child, I can say that).
Or maybe it was because I'd been there, done that.
Look, I know Mommy Guilt is hard.
Especially for all of us working moms who try to balance it all.
I work full time, get off work, get the kids, meet The Hubs at home and go to the gym for an hour 4-5 nights a week.
Usually a long run.
It was REALLY hard for me to get into a routine after I had MJ. I had TWO kids now, how the heck was I supposed to get a workout in, cook dinner, take care of the kids, AND work full time??
But you've just got to MAKE time for it.
If you want change, you have to make it happen.
You can sit and make all the excuses you want. But if you want something bad enough, you'll make time for it.
And making time for ourselves is important. Not only in our quest to look and FEEL better, but to teach our kids healthy habits.
Make YOU a priority.
You're not just a mom. Or a wife. Or a sister. Or an aunt.
You're a WOMAN.
And you deserve to look and feel the best you can!